6 Emotional Intelligence Tricks Leaders Use to Get Along

When it comes to leadership and work effectiveness, emotional intelligence (EQ) matters more, if not more, than IQ. This is what matters most when it comes to building relationships and connecting with others.

A tall order for many. Yet, when you master being aware of your own feelings and the feelings of others, you can connect and empathize with peers and co-workers to reach solutions faster.

Like many things in life, it takes practice to increase your emotional intelligence and become a more effective person. You can get started by applying these seven useful tricks.

1. Put Yourself in the Other Person’s Place

Good leaders think about the circumstances of their colleagues, understand their challenges and frustrations, and know that those feelings are genuine in every way. This helps develop perspective and opens up team members to help each other. A true recipe for success.

2. Share an Existing Conflict

The pandemic forced leaders to embrace vulnerability and demonstrate a new level of humanity in the workforce. By sharing what you’re struggling with, asking for help, and being transparent, your team will follow suit—and together you can work toward creative solutions more effectively and efficiently.

3. Show curiosity

Considering all the digital exchanges we have during the workday, what can we do as leaders to humanize our interactions, draw people in and build trust? It comes down to one word: Curiosity research has found That inquisitive people are known to have better relationships, and that other people are more easily attracted to and feel socially closer to individuals who display curiosity.

4. Stop Judging Others

Since decision-makers tend to critique anything and everything as if it were a hobby, they should not expect anyone to come to them for advice or problem-solving (others know to do so). It’s a total waste of time). What a judgmental attitude will do will alienate colleagues at work. If this is you, your best plan of action is to stop jumping to conclusions before hearing all the facts and start listening carefully to improve your communication skills. Remember this: When we judge, we invite judgment upon ourselves.

5. Never wear a mask that hides your true feelings

Leaders displaying high EQ do not wear masks. I say this because a common tendency of people in management roles is to put on a mask that hides who they really are or what they are currently feeling. This can happen when insecure leaders command those around them or forcefully seek attention with false charisma. This can happen when they embrace the truth because of their fear of failure. On the other hand, emotionally intelligent leaders connect with people by performing at their best with honesty, emotional honesty (vulnerability) and authenticity.

6. Practice Patience

Leaders with a high level of emotional intelligence use their patience to their advantage. They have the ability to process a situation heading south, gain perspective from multiple voices, listen to someone they disagree with without judgment, and hold back from reacting head-on. By considering things with a rational mind, you will eventually come to a more, more sensible conclusion, which helps you a lot to diffuse conflict and establish better relationships with people.

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