Here’s How Jennifer Lopez Taught a Master Class in Self-Acceptance at the MTV Awards

When Jennifer Lopez won the MTV Generation Movie & TV Award earlier this month, His acceptance speech made headlines, There was no talk of thank-you, which is usually the bulk of award acceptance speeches, though he did give another heartfelt shout-out to his longtime manager Benny Medina, and to his fan base.

Instead, she said, “Since you can’t make up the truth until you’ve actually lived it, I have a different kind of list of thanksgivings tonight.” And it was really different. It was a lesson for every leader and every communicator in both self-acceptance and in letting others see and know your authentic self.

Know here what makes his speech so special.

1. He thanked his mistakes and failures.

Entrepreneurs and others in the startup world talk a lot about the value of failure. The best way to learn how failure is how failure makes you stronger. But if any one of us stands in front of millions of spectators and admits our biggest failures, let alone express our gratitude for them.

“I want to thank those who brought me joy and who broke my heart. Those who were truthful and those who lied to me. I want to thank true love and the way I lied to myself. I want to thank him. Because that’s how I knew I had to grow. I want to thank disappointment and failure that taught me to be strong and that my kids taught me to love.”

Consider for a moment the power behind those words. We’ve all made mistakes. If we are lucky, we have learned from them. If we’ve gained some wisdom and insight along the way, we can forgive ourselves for our mistakes and accept how much we learned from them. But how many of us would have the honesty and self-knowledge to stand on the world stage and thank our own blunders and self-deception for the lessons they taught us? I know I won’t.

2. He thanked those who hurt him.

Lopez has faced opponents throughout her life, beginning with her parents, who thought of one of her sisters as the “smart one” and the other as the “singer”. J. Lou wanted to be a dancer, but her parents insisted that she go to college; Eventually she moved out of the house so that she could pursue her dream.

She struggled to be taken seriously as an actress and Faced with ridiculously rude comments and questions about her butt, When fiancé Ben Affleck asked if it bothered him, he replied “I’m Latina, I’m the kind of woman I expected.” But here’s what he said about it at the MTV Awards.

“I want to thank everyone who told me, to my face or when I wasn’t in the room, that I couldn’t do it. I really don’t think I could have done it without you.”

I love the tone and emotional intelligence in that statement. Yes, she has faced haters, but no, she is not bitter or angry because they helped inspire her. And so in the end everyone won.

3. It was a very smart bit of marketing.

Do not get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that there was anything less than genuine about J Lo’s acceptance speech. It was clear that she felt the meaning and depth of every word. But it’s also a moment in this iconic star’s career when she’s being more self-opening than ever.

was there before marry me, a frothy romantic comedy about a marriage in which Lopez plays Kat Valdez, a mega-pop star whose engagement to another star is the subject of endless online commentary and speculation – much like Lopez’s real life with Affleck The engagement is gone. It wasn’t hard to assume that Lopez was playing herself.

Then, Netflix came out half the time, a backstage documentary with Shakira about her appearance at the 2020 Super Bowl Halftime Show. “My whole life, I’ve struggled to be heard, to be seen, to be taken seriously,” she says in the film. It’s as if this woman who has spent most of her life performing, now wants to let the world see who she really is as a human being. It’s a powerful job, and an effective way to connect with your customers or fans–no matter what business you’re in.

Here is J. Lou’s full speech:

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