We are all human and are associated with a similar tendency to evaluate ourselves relative to others. but, Comparative views are not useful. In fact, they keep us stuck where we are. Everyone grapples with the same doubts and fears, and Even with this knowledge, it’s hard to avoid those underlying thought patterns. Here are some common comparisons and how to overcome them.
“She really puts her stuff together.”
It is often directed at a specific person or group of people in your life, showing up to places in time, dressed in something other than athleisure. the truth is that he Not there His stuff belongs together more than anyone else. Nobody does.
We all feel quite scattered most of the time. And in those fleeting moments of balance, when we’ve tamed our to-do list, there’s little joy because we start worrying about when it’s all going to break again. Close this comparison by reminding yourself that you are only watching a slice of someone’s life versus getting to know your own. There is always more beneath the surface.
“He knows what he wants and how to get it.”
We see and admire people in action – which is great. But we believe they are moving forward because they have it all figured out, or have some innate talent that we don’t have.
they do not. They have just figured out the next step and are ready to complete the rest as they move forward. Sure, there are people who have stuck with a clear, big goal for a while. However, these people also have to accept that the way to get there was different than they expected. Close this comparison by reminding yourself that no one has perfect plans and that there will always be jerks and curves along the way—just keep going.
“She’s not sitting there guessing herself.”
He absolutely is, and way more often than you’d imagine. It is impossible to stop thinking on a loop about options and alternative paths not taken. The difference is what you do with them when they pop up. You can continue giving to distract or you can calm down by accepting the thoughts and then re-committing to your decision.
Believing that other people do not harbor the same doubts and fears—that others are somehow fundamentally different from us—puts them on a pedestal and holds us back. These thoughts make us feel like there is something wrong with us, that we are broken when everyone else is perfect and acting flawlessly.
When we constantly remind ourselves that we humans are all going through the same human experience, it becomes easier to put those thoughts into perspective and move on. When you stop comparing you set yourself free to start working on your own unique journey and timeline and achieve your dreams.